I’ve done it again. I’ve eaten too much, my exercise program has dropped off almost completely and household routines are way out of whack. This happens to me every year, during the Christmas season. and every year, come January 1st, I start pulling things back together. I thrive on regular routine, I know what I need to do and I am confident that I will get to where I need to be.
This year, as schedules come back on track, I have a different kind of resolution! I’ve set my goals. I’ve laid out my plans. Now I need to press forward and STOP COMPARING MYSELF TO OTHERS.
Motivation or Discouragement?
Comparison is, in fact, one of my biggest progress killers. While comparison, for some, can lead to healthy competition and motivation, for others, it inevitably leads to discouragement. I’ve always thought I was in the first group and maybe in some situations, I am. At other times though, seeing what other busy woman in similar situations can accomplish only serves to invoke my perfection and procrastination genes. Fear of failure or inadequacy can stop me in my tracks faster than Perfect Pinterest Mom can bake her Christmas cookies.
Realistically speaking, when we compare ourselves to others, we only see the tip of the iceberg. We have no idea what is going on behind the scenes, how hard people are working or what they may be sacrificing or going through to get to where they are.
We are Individuals
Last fall, I came across this photo on fitness guru, Brett Hoebel’s Facebook page. Obviously, the above photo was specifically related to weight loss and fitness but for the last several months, I’ve been pondering how it applies to so many areas of life. It actually helped me move through this season with less stress than usual. I am different than other people. We each have unique life circumstances, different body types, diverse family needs and dissimilar priorities. Some of us are more creative. Others are more efficient. We don’t necessarily accomplish the same goals. We have different dreams and aspirations and our rate of progress will not be the same. And that’s okay!
Whether we are thinking of our roles as wives and mothers, our responsibilities as homeschool teachers, our ability to serve in Christian ministry, our careers outside of the home or any other area of potential comparison with others, it is important to keep things in perspective. We can always work hard and do our best in all situations. That doesn’t mean doing better than someone else. God created you and me for a special and unique purpose. He gives us the gifts, talents and resources we need to meet His needs. Honour your individuality!
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men.
Have a very Safe & Happy New Year! All the best and may you reach your goals in 2016.